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A Kids’ Book That Should Make Parents Freak Out

This is a kids’ book.

I don’t even know what to say.

Is this a thing?

What’s going on in our kindergartens? Do we have some kind of freaky, sexual Lord of the Flies situation in our preschools?

Lord help us parents.

I said no

Forget the red flag. A baseball bat would be more effective.

The book has great reviews on Good Reads.

Still, I don’t even know what to say.

UPDATE: I misinterpreted the book by just looking at the cover. Bad me. I thought the book was about “kid on kid” sexual abuse, but it’s about watching out for pedophiles basically. This is a description of the book from a commenter, Randie, on Good Reads:

“I Said, No!” is a book written by a boy and his mom to teach children how to keep themselves safe from sexual abuse. The book identifies trusted adults as “green flag people” and strangers, friends, etc as “red flag people”. Children are taught that red flag people should not touch their privates and vice versa. The book addresses how red flag people might use bribes, threats, and lies to hurt them and provides examples of how children can themselves safe from red flag people. The book also emphasizes that if a red flag person does hurt a child, it is never their fault and that it is never too late to tell a trusted adult. I appreciated the fact that the book mentions that sometimes a trusted adult may be a red flag person. 

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  1. I used to work in a library, and we once discovered in our donation box a picture book about a little girl who was abused by a satanic cult.

    I simply cannot explain.

    October 2, 2013
    • There extremely sick and evil people ….

      October 2, 2013
  2. Wow, I’m right there with you in not knowing what to say. I think I would need to read this to actually know how I feel.

    October 2, 2013
  3. *gulp*

    October 2, 2013
  4. Dang…

    October 2, 2013
  5. Being proactive is so important. The statistics are staggering. Yes, it’s uncomfortable, but the idea of being proactive is serious business. I haven’t read this book, but I know there is actually a lot of literature out there on it.

    October 2, 2013
  6. Lucille #

    I’m curious. I gather that you have not read this book. I haven’t either. Is it the presence of book, or is it the idea that the book is needed that upsets you?

    October 2, 2013
    • I haven’t read the book. Yes, it’s the idea that the book is even needed. I’m aware of sicko pedophiles out there, but this seems to be more focused on a “kid to kid” issue, which is more surprising to me. Little kids, even.

      October 2, 2013
      • I think the “kid-to-kid” part means one kid giving advice to another, not advice on how to keep other kids away from your naughty bits.

        October 2, 2013
        • I didn’t see your update, which is a little dumb on my part since you bolded it. Whoops!

          October 2, 2013
  7. I doubt there is anything going on in our kindergartens today that wasn’t going on when I was there 40 years ago. I think the difference is the media coverage of every single thing that happens anywhere that makes it feel like an epidemic we need to be scared about. And then write an instructional book about for children.

    October 2, 2013
  8. It’s certainly surprising, but even if it helps to protect even one child it’s worth it?

    It must be scary and uncomfortable for parents though to think their kids need to be taught things like this.

    October 2, 2013
    • Oh, I agree. I just hate that this is a big enough issue that a book is even need about it.

      October 2, 2013
      • I agree, you don’t want to believe that anyone would even think about doing things like that.

        October 2, 2013
  9. Reblogged this on KMSRAJ51-Always Positive Thinker.

    October 2, 2013
  10. Unfortunately there are pervs out there and we DO need to teach our children at early age about modesty and what kind of touch from someone else is not appropriate. I only wish someone had warned me because at age 6, I had some very wrong things happen to me that I had no idea were wrong at the time. Help could have been gotten for me and a pedophile arrested had I known what was going on was wrong at the time. I kept my secret for years until I was much older and figured it out on my own. Not sure if book you posted is a good aid for conversation or not, but somehow we need to tell our kids about their bodies and how God designed them and how to know when something wrong has happened that they need to talk about.

    October 2, 2013
    • Thanks for sharing Jen. That’s definitely an issue, and I want my kids to be aware of it. My interpretation of the book, based on the cover, was that this is focused on “kid to kid” touching–which is what caught me off guard. But I haven’t read it, so I could be wrong.

      October 2, 2013
      • And I misinterpreted the book. See my update to the post.

        October 2, 2013
      • You’d be surprised what kids in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL are doing these days with each other. Horrifying!!! No joke!! At my first parent-teacher conference they informed all the parents with great detail exactly what was happening on the school playgrounds and in their bathrooms. It’s shocking. I can only assume that ease of access to pornography through the internet and kids gaming units and cell phones that it’s in large part responsible for kids engaging in sexual activity at younger and younger ages.

        October 2, 2013
  11. Naomi #

    There is actually a daycare center here in GA that is being investigated because boys were having the girls perform acts on them or they were doing things to the girls.

    October 2, 2013
  12. This book is great! Why did you assume anything other than it being about saying no to sexual predators? The cover says it all….

    October 2, 2013
  13. Hmmmm….. I don’t know how I feel about this. I think it’s pretty stupid. I get it, I know, but. Hmmmmmmmmmm. Confused.

    October 2, 2013
  14. My sister is a case manager and works with very young children who have been sexually abused. I personally think that we try to not talk about many prevalent issues in our schools and society and instead, we need to be empowering our students to advocate for themselves. Although these topics are difficult to discuss and there is always a place and a time, I think it’s actually important that there are texts like these out there, bringing light to really overlooked issues in our schools. I think books like these that deal with tough issues, in a more ‘engaging’ manner are great and can really serve to propel meaningful conversations/discussions in the classroom. We need to empower our students!

    October 2, 2013
  15. At first I was a little appalled, and while I still am, I would much rather that books be written on this subject than have everyone stay silent and let children be hurt while people turn the other way. Of course, the ideal would be for this to not be an issue in the first place, but it’s too late for that. I think it’s also important for children to learn that it is not their fault for attracting the “red flag” people and that they shouldn’t feel ashamed, as if they are doing something wrong. So I suppose that I do support this type of literature, if it is needed.

    October 3, 2013
  16. Reblogged this on Communicatism and commented:
    Book cover design is important. When marketing team wants to push the products into market with better attention, lots of times lead to unexpected effect. This book review is a good example.

    October 6, 2013
  17. According to, “More than 90% of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator in some way.” So the whole red flag idea is neat yes, but we should be teaching children about sexual abuse/ safety from everyone. There needs to be more parental involvement with teaching children about this. And I understand some parents are good for nothing, but that’s when books like this need to clarify that not only “red flag” people should not be touching them in bad ways that hurt them, but neither should “green flagged” people. There needs to be more clarification of who trusted adults are from what I gather from what the review states.


    October 7, 2013
  18. Reblogged this on Adithya Entertainment.

    October 8, 2013

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